I remember an odd conversation I had about five years ago with a pastor’s wife. Our conversation somehow took a tangent and we landed on the topic of choosing outfits. She proceeded to share with me that God helps pick out her outfit each morning. After asking why, her response was, “He is my best friend. I like to include Him in everything.” I kept my mouth quiet, but I wanted to say, “Hate to break it to you lady, but God has other things to do than help you pick out your outfit.” But, she was onto something. She treated God like her best friend, not like some distant, Father-figure. And now, at this stage in my life, I am that woman.
I like to spend a lot of time alone, but I do not necessarily feel lonely. During this alone time, it looks like I talk to myself a lot. It may be at home, in the car, or out while running errands. Sure, I might look crazy to the guy sitting next to me at a red light, but who cares. God is funny. He gets my sense of humor and can make me laugh. I ask God to help me choose the best bag of fruit at Costco. Sometimes, I forget why I walked into a room, so I ask God to remind me what I was supposed to do. When a San Antonio driver cuts me off and “not so Jesus-like” thoughts are running through my head, God reminds me that He loves them too. God also knows when I start getting into my controlling mode and pulls me back from it. I like to rehearse with God what I am going to say before walking into a conversation or a meeting. I share with God when I am sad, and He makes His peaceful presence known. When I am stewing on a thought, He guides me in processing it, then letting it go. He is my friend that does not tire of me. And now, He helps pick out my outfits.
From the start of this series, I already knew today’s blog post was going to be centered on Psalm 25:14. All this talk about Identity in my other two posts culminates here in having friendship with God.
“Friendship with God is reserved for those who reverence him. With them alone he shares the secrets of his promises.” Psalm 25:14 TLB
Oftentimes, we look at God as this distant, Father-figure. We, as Christians, know He is there and that He exists. But, do we think of Him as a friend? This life can be lonely. Oftentimes, we may be surrounded by people, acquaintances, and friends, yet still feel alone. Reading the Psalms, King David often sounded isolated and lonely. His writings reflect how desperately he desired friendship with God. In Psalm 25, David speaks as if friendship with God is something he continually strives for, not something he has achieved. Just like any friendship, being a friend of God is not a matter of checking the box. It takes time, nurture, and reverence.
David knew that friendship with God is a privilege. It is reserved for a specific type of people, those who revere Him. While I may have the whole “talking out loud with God” thing down, I still want more friendship with Him and I desire to experience Him more. Since I crave this, and I am guessing you do too, I did some of the legwork for both of us.
I like organization and formulas, so here is how I look at Psalm 25. Twelve verses leading up to Psalm 25:14 share how we may become God’s reverent people. (See Psalm 25:1-14 below for reference)
Trusting God = Faith (Psalm 25: 1-3)
Repenting of Sins and Choosing Obedience = Humility (Psalm 25: 6-7, 10-11)
Asking for Guidance = Right Path (Psalm 25: 4-5, 8-10, 12)
Faith + Humility + Right Path = Reverence
Why is this simple formula so significant? How can something as simple as three words lead us in becoming a reverent people? Because, each of these three words show how much we need God. Reverence is a way that God feels respected by His people. So, He asks that we do three things to show our dependence on Him: trust Him, repent of that which separates us from Him (sin), and choose His righteous path. When we do so, He has someone beautiful in store.
Reverence = Friendship with God (Psalm 25:14)
Being a friend, a good friend, is about being selfless. By laying down our pride, selfishness, and self-sufficiency, we may become a friend of God. Not only that, there is more in store for those who have friendship with God. Let us circle back to the verse we skipped over, Psalm 25:13.
Friendship with God = Circle of Blessing (Psalm 25:13)
“He shall live within God’s circle of blessing, and his children shall inherit the earth.” (Psalm 25:13)
Through faith, humility, and choosing the right path, we may ultimately live in friendship with God and in His circle of blessing. Not only that, but our future generations may experience this circle of blessing too. What a legacy you may leave by living out these three words!
We often hear, “I want more of God.” Instead, let us change the conversation to, “I want more friendship with God.” It brings the desire to a much more intimate level. We have a role to play in this friendship, it is not one-sided. But, God knows that we oftentimes fail to hold up our end of the deal. God ultimately honors when we invite Him into our crazy and chaotic lives. So, let us strive to be a reverent people, just as King David. Let us invite God in, so we may experience true friendship with Him. And guess what? It can be as simple as picking out your outfit together in the morning.
Prayer: Lord, I trust you and invite you into every nook and cranny of my life. I am humbled by my sins. Please extend your forgiveness, mercy, and loving-kindness to wash me clean. Show me the right path to walk in our ways. I choose to obey you and respect you. Lord, I revere you and desire true friendship with you. Please guide me in this friendship. My desire is that I and my future generations will experience Your blessings.
Psalm 25:1-14 (TLB)
To you, O Lord, I pray. 2 Don’t fail me, Lord, for I am trusting you. Don’t let my enemies succeed. Don’t give them victory over me. 3 None of those who have faith in God will ever be disgraced for trusting him. But all who harm the innocent shall be defeated.
4 Show me the path where I should go, O Lord; point out the right road for me to walk. 5 Lead me; teach me; for you are the God who gives me salvation. I have no hope except in you. 6-7 Overlook my youthful sins, O Lord! Look at me instead through eyes of mercy and forgiveness, through eyes of everlasting love and kindness.
8 The Lord is good and glad to teach the proper path to all who go astray; 9 he will teach the ways that are right and best to those who humbly turn to him. 10 And when we obey him, every path he guides us on is fragrant with his loving-kindness and his truth.
11 But Lord, my sins! How many they are. Oh, pardon them for the honor of your name.
12 Where is the man who fears the Lord? God will teach him how to choose the best.
13 He shall live within God’s circle of blessing, and his children shall inherit the earth.
14 Friendship with God is reserved for those who reverence him. With them alone he shares the secrets of his promises.