We started the first two years of our marriage living off one Senior Airman paycheck while I finished up my bachelor’s degree. That is how we ended up at McDonald’s for our weekly Saturday morning date.
At eight in the morning, we were easily the youngest customers by a few decades. But we are old souls in young bodies, so we enjoyed the quietness of the McDonald’s café down the street. I would always get an egg white delight with a small coffee, just under five dollars. Ben would generally add some variety to his order each time.
While in pre-martial counseling, we held tightly to what our pastor and his wife advised, “Choose your ruts wisely. It is easy to get into a marriage rut, so might as well make it a good rut.” So, out of a lack of date night money and a desire to reconnect after a tough week, the Saturday morning rut came about and still continues until this day.
Now, with the business of life, this Saturday morning date takes on different forms. But the ultimate purpose is for us to set aside intentional time to reconnect on the weekend. Through the chaos of a week, we both enjoy holding onto the idea of our Saturday morning date. It is reassuring to know that phones get put on silent and we have an opportunity to process the highs and lows of the week together. Other times, we put the week aside and choose to dream about our future together. We dream about what our little ones will be like one day, where we want to settle down after the military, and what kind of ministry we want to do together.
One thing Ben says is that he is continually dating me. He says he wants to earn not just one but multiple Doctorates in Megan Johnson by the end of our lifetime. I love that and continually aim to do the same.
Looking at the future of our marriage, I can guarantee I will not know how to handle everything that comes my way. But in the midst of this uncertainty, I rest in the peace of the Holy Spirit. What is pretty neat about the Holy Spirit is that He is with me even when I do not have internet access or a marriage book nearby. Credible Christian-centered marriage websites, blogs, podcasts, and books are great tools, but they will never be a replacement for a Holy Spirit-led marriage. I have oftentimes found myself running to my computer for a quick answer versus letting the Holy Spirit guide my words and actions in our marriage.
“If you love me, keep my commands. And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be in you.” John 14:15-17 (NIV)
Thankfully, I have the Holy Spirit guiding me to be the godly wife I was called to be for Ben. While I may gracefully fail, trip, and stumble my way into this calling, it is reassuring that I am never alone. I will always be Ben’s Saturday morning date, we have that rut down. My prayer is that both Ben and I strive to stay in the rut of following the Holy Spirit’s lead.